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Advice to my 16 year old self

In 2009, a best selling book was published called "Dear me: A letter to my sixteen year old self". It inspired me to write this post. I can't believe it, ten years later here I am. I've overcome everything that I've ever worried about in the past. In fact, all my problems just seemed so minor. I didn't know who I was because I was trying so hard to be somebody else. Time sure flies and it's comforting to look back and know I've made it. I finally learnt to accept myself and be happy. 


Dear 16 year old me,

You may have suffered many racial slurs in High School but you don't have to be ashamed of being chinese. 

Ditch the harsh skin cleansers you're using right now. It's drying out your skin and not helping your acne. Go for gentle cleansers. 

You don't have to wear an entire makeup range on your face. Makeup is supposed to enhance your beauty. Not mask it. 

As hard as it can be to believe, your skin WILL improve. Right now you think heavy coverage foundation is helping by covering your acne but it's actually worsening your skin. You'll become dependent on makeup however, you're going to meet a wonderful guy called Tim and he's going to show you that you don't need to mask yourself behind layers of makeup. You'll notice your skin improving dramatically because your pores are no longer constantly clogged with heavy foundation.

Keep reading those books and pay attention to school. Appreciate your teachers and be nice to them.

Don't worry so much about keeping up with your so-called friends in High School. Ten years later, you won't know any of them anymore. 

Wearing braces is going to be one of the best decisions of your life. 

Don't let your World be completely ruled by relationships.

You've got to love yourself first before you love others. Realise you are worth everything. 

You hate school right now and you can't wait to leave but you're going to look back and realise it's one of the best times of your life so while you've still got the time, cherish life in High School. Turns out, life gets more complicated after High School. 

It's ok to be different. Stop trying to fit in. It's not you. 

Your validation and worth is completely based upon your parent's approval right now so you work very hard to hit good grades but one day you're going to do a 180 degree U-Turn to follow your own dreams. It's ok, your parents will love you just the same. They just want you to be happy.

Stop dyeing your hair in different colours. It's awful looking right now and you're going to look back and cringe. 

All this bitchiness isn't you. You're doing this to protect yourself. You think it makes you look tougher but in fact, it's destroying you. Give up this pride and concentrate in the more important things in life.

Stop caring so much about what others think of you. 

BUSTED are going to split up so don't get too attached to the band. 

Stay creative! Keep painting and writing your own stories. You feel like you're a total dork but 10 years later, dorks & geeks will be in!


What would you write to the 16 year old you whether it's past you or future you? Give it a go and you'll be surprised with what you'll end up saying to yourself. 

Much love, Bubz xx



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